How do you bring more balance into your life?
Sometimes I think maybe I shouldn’t be the one writing about balance and reducing overwhelm. I mean what do I know? Just this week I got myself in a tizz about all the things I have going on, I even end up taking it out on my partner at times that he just ‘doesn’t get it’. Then I beat myself up about not even doing my yoga practice, or going for a walk, or doing a morning meditation.
Then I realise actually this really is a lifelong practice and I absolutely have come a long way.
What used to tip me over the edge now barely surfaces at all. For one, I’m soooo much better at saying No. I relish opportunities to prioritise myself. And, I’m way more adamant about my own boundaries.
And, then, I have days where I feel like I’ve gotten nowhere. I’m flummoxed, realise I over-committed and can’t believe my boundaries just got all walked over!
What I’m realising more and more in this journey is that, perhaps, that is exactly the beauty of life. It’s cyclical. And it’s totally meant to be.
“Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” Brene Brown
The journey to balance
And therefore my own journey to balance – which for me really means finding my wholeness to life, living with purpose and feeling lit up – is about showing up every single day willing to flex. Willing to explore the light and the dark. Willing to put me first. Willing to continue evolving rather than revolving. You know, where you keep repeating the same thing over and over again in your life and wonder why you keep ending up in the same place… Evolving, on the other hand, is about taking things up another notch, learning from past mistakes, applying new ways, new behaviours, and feeling like you’re becoming a better version of yourself every single day.
I tell all of my clients that awareness is a critical first step to any change you’re seeking to create in your life—without it, you simply can’t and don’t recognise when you’re back at that Revolving Door. In fact, I say it’s 90% of the way to change once you have it.
And, when it comes to Awareness, I really can feel completely in my element writing about it. Because I really am consistently curious about what is driving my thoughts, emotions and feelings on a daily basis. Even in amidst the overwhelm or over-commitment at times I notice and I seek to evolve.
I also tell my clients if you want ‘Balance’ (happiness, fulfilment, lightness, connection – whichever it is most for you) you must be able to recognise it when it does show up in your life. Otherwise, you may just miss it, when you’re too busy focusing on what you don’t want and how you don’t want to feel.
When I start asking them a few more questions about what they’re most seeking and what it is they do want, I just LOVE watching their responses and how so many of them realise they already are experiencing so much of ‘that thing’ in their life. It’s so much more about refining and evolving their practice around it, allowing that experience to show up more consistently.
Here’s what I tend to ask them most – and you can ask yourself these exact same questions, right now:
- How do you most want to feel in your life?
- What would it give you to feel that?
- How will you know when you’re feeling it? (What will things look like, feel like and sound like? Will you be telling yourself something? Where will the feeling show up?)
- When was the last time you experienced this feeling? (Where were you? What were you doing? How did you feel? What did you tell yourself at the time?)
There’s no particular right or wrong way to go about these questions, nor the responses. They can be as big or small as you like. Everything that comes up will be clues for you to experience more ‘Balance’ in your own life and start to bring in more awareness for how you can create even more of it. And as you now know, awareness is 90% of the journey. Eve & Grace have a number of classes that support you in reconnecting, take a look at the class schedule and take your first step to balance.